After a few half-hearted years of being on Facebook, I decided to kill my involvement with it once and for all.
I think there are certain misconceptions about what we have begun to call social media, in spite of it being accepted common sense these days that you have to be engaging through it to expand your audience.
What is social media anyway? Isn’t any media social? An email is social. A phone call is social. In fact, much of the media we have been using before Facebook is a lot more social than the reigning king of social media today, an internet within itself.
Yes, Facebook is great for keeping in touch with college friends, its original purpose. But it’s been a while since I was in college, and, after the initial novelty of rediscovering people I’d forgotten about, I have also come to realize that if I didn’t miss them, I wasn’t losing out on much. You keep in touch with people who matter to you with or without Facebook. And, if the person is worth it, you pick up the phone (even if that’s the Skype app on an iPhone), or email, or sit down for coffee.
But what I’ve always hated about Facebook is its atmosphere of sharing, which starts of as a good idea but slowly degenerates into endless feeds of babies, holidays, photo albums named ‘Random’, invitations to Farmville, fake accounts and idiotic comments. And being tagged in photos.
Slowly, as the romance waned, I started tweaking my privacy settings till you couldn’t tag me, couldn’t write on my wall, couldn’t find me and couldn’t see my photos. I created groups within groups of contacts, with separate levels of access.
But I also think it’s silly to be on Facebook and complain about privacy. We make our choices. We’re on Facebook to share, and that’s great, and if it isn’t then don’t. Facebook is a great platform but it just isn’t for me.
Instead, since it is my work I most want to talk about, I will keep posting updates and thoughts through Twitter, which cuts out the fluff in a way that Facebook just cannot. What is it about Twitter that is different? I love the fact that the interaction is one on one. It isn’t a status hanging invitingly on a Facebook Wall for everyone to add their two bits. It’s clean, and since it forces you to write not more than 140 characters per tweet, it creates an atmosphere where you focus on what is most important. There just isn’t room for all that other stuff that makes Facebook so unbearable.